Help with Low Self-Confidence in Derby
Self-confidence is about trusting your own judgement and feeling comfortable with your abilities and powers. It is the means to realise your full potential and be the person you want to be. When I provide help with low Self Confidence in Derby I’ll help you to feel secure in the world – enabling both you and others to feel safe that they know what to expect of you.
Low Self Confidence is made up of a variety of factors, including how you present yourself physically to the world and how you relate to other people.
When I carry out therapy for help with low self confidence in Derby I’ll assist you – bringing benefits to all areas of your life, including relationships, career, social life and state of mind. Some people are self-confident in their work-life but not in their social life, we all differ. People feel comfortable with confident people as they are usually predictable and their behaviour is reliable.
Signs you have low self-confidence
Your level of self-confidence can be seen by others in many ways; in your body language, your behaviour, how you speak and how you react to different situations. Self-confident people are generally more positive and believe in themselves and their abilities, whereas those with low self-confidence often have negative thoughts about themselves and their ability, which then leads to a downward spiral of under-achievement and disappointment.
If you have low self-confidence you may feel:
- You fail at everything and are unsuccessful
- You have no drive or direction
- Shy and uneasy
- A sense of uselessness and worthlessness
- Inferior to others
- Bitter about work, social and family relationships.
- You go to pieces in situations where you might be judged eg. Exams, interviews, driving tests etc
“Hi Geoffrey, I came to see you last month, not sure if you’ll remember me, I came for Therapy to calm my nerves about going for job interviews. I just wanted to let you know how well the treatment has worked, its amazing !! I went for three job interviews, I felt calm through every one of them, even got offers off all of them !!! Thank you so very much. Thea”
There may be some areas of your life where you feel confident and others where you do not.
It is important to assess this to understand that learning and skills can be a bridge to confidence. Maybe you are confident with one or two close friends but not with strangers. It may be that you are confident with animals or children but not with adults. You may be able to cook but unable to sing. Confident people build on what they can do and confront honestly what they are lacking in, accepting constructive criticism and support.
Causes of low self-confidence
Your early environment and influences often have a major effect on how your confidence has developed throughout your early life – along with your own disposition and resilience. Many siblings brought up have very different levels of confidence. Children who are encouraged to speak their mind openly usually retain the habit. Children who have been unable to make their needs understood or have not overcome a learning difficulty might feel there is no way forward or opportunities for them. Sometimes – with the best intentions parents can push their children into achieving through pressurising them into exams / study…causing them to have unrealistic expectations of themselves that they can never live up to…at other times you may have been unrelentingly criticised so that you believe you are unworthy…
How can you help me with my low self-confidence Geoffrey ?
When I carry out therapy with a client – providing help with low self confidence in Derby, through a combination of Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Stress Management you will begin to relax and believe in yourself… helping you to overcome set-backs and problems.. So although the past may seem to have determined your current confidence level it remains a very flexible trait. For many people a crisis, divorce, illness or bereavement can be the surprising springboard to find an alternative route to build confidence. It is always possible to improve your skills in this area at any time you choose.
“Thought I’d let you know I’ve been offered a job. The department where I had an interview on 8th May rang to see if I was still interested, and of course I said yes – your sessions really helped. Can’t thank you enough. “
What do I do now Geoffrey ?
Simply call me, or E Mail me. As ever all discussions are in total confidence and remember I always offer a free consultation to discuss the best way forward. I will honestly appraise your situation and advise you if your symptoms will require a few sessions – or simply a “one off” ….why not contact me now ?
Mob. 07582 865 265
E:geoffrey@alexanderpractice.co.uk
https://www.nhs.uk/Video/Pages/low-confidence-and-assertiveness-podcast.aspx
