Help with Phobia in Derby
Recently looking for help with phobia in Derby a young woman, Sarah, came to see me. She worked as cabin crew on a well-known airline, a job that required her to be ‘on display’ to the public. But she told me she suffered from terrible self-consciousness.
She managed somehow to hide this at work, but when she was out and about in town she would become terrified.
“It sounds so stupid,” she told me, blushing a little, “but I have this terrible fear I’m going to fall over in the street, or in a store, and everyone will see and laugh at me and think I’m an idiot! I’m obsessed with this thought. It ruins everything for me!”
By the time she came to see me Sarah had started avoiding going out altogether. And she had no idea why this obsession had taken hold.
I looked at her and said, “You’re telling me you really want to get over this problem; that it’s wrecking your life, right?” She agreed.
“Are you sincere about that?”
“And you would do anything to get rid of it?” She agreed to this also.
“Okay,” I said, “you’re afraid of falling over accidentally in town, right? So this is what I want you to do between now and the next time I see you. Go to the Intu Centre. Choose a public spot where everyone can see you. Then fall down on purpose. Count exactly how many people laugh. Remember, this is not to be an accidental fall. Follow these instructions to the letter.”
The psychological shock of hearing such a dramatic and unexpected instruction instantly plunged this woman into that very narrow, focused state we call ‘shock hypnosis ‘. Before she knew it, and to my astonishment, she had agreed to my prescription. I felt she was a woman of integrity and I was pretty sure she wouldn’t go back on her word.
So what happened ?
Sarah the lady who had come for help with Phobia in Derby showed up to the next week brimming with energy. I asked her what happened.
“Well,” she said, “on Saturday I went in to town. I still thought you were crazy, asking me to do this, but I was so intrigued by the idea I couldn’t help myself. I walked up and down the mall for a whole hour before I gathered the courage to fall over. Eventually, I made myself trip and fall onto the floor, and I lay there.”
“And were you careful to count the number of people who laughed?” I asked her seriously.
“Well that was the weird thing. Nothing! No one did anything! People ignored me! They just looked away. I couldn’t believe it!”
She had hit her stride now….
“In fact, I was a bit cross no one had bothered to help. So I did it again half an hour later, in the middle of the street in another part of town, and again no one did anything! People just walked by as if nothing had happened!
“So I tried again. On my third fall, an elderly lady finally came over and asked if I was all right. I was so grateful that someone had finally taken notice!”
Sarah had gone from dreading people taking notice (with the assumption they would think she was stupid) to being annoyed no one took notice. Quite a turnaround !
So if you’re looking for help with Phobia in Derby why not contact me to see how I can help you – everything is in total confidence.
Geoffrey Schofield D.CBT D.Hyp
07582 865 265 E: firstname.lastname@example.org